I Am Enough

Posted by on Nov 3, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I Am Enough

Sometimes when it’s quiet and I’m alone with my thoughts, I can hear the echo of distant voices; one insecure, the other impatient and incredulous:

Me: I’m not smart enough, educated enough, thin enough, funny enough, pretty enough, good enough (etc., ad nauseam).

Him: You got the fucking Robert Shukraft award. What more do you need?

A bachelor’s degree from UC Berkeley?

A master’s degree from Dominican University?

License as a Marriage and Family Therapist?

Owning a successful psychotherapy practice?

Writing and publishing a book of fiction?

No. No. And no.

Did I mention friends and family who love and support me? And abundance all around me?

It should be enough. Why isn’t it enough?

The Robert Shukraft award, by the way, is an annual award given out by the Department of Counseling Psychology at Dominican University for Inspirational Leadership, in Recognition of Outstanding Service for Inspiring Students to Believe in Themselves.

Yes, that’s right.

What else do I have to do, or be, to prove to myself that I am enough?

Damn neural pathways!

Because that is what we’re talking about. Neural pathways created by the brain – deep, rooted, and destructive; shaped and formed by repeated, negative stimuli from one or more external sources. The worst part? Even after the external stimuli stops, our brain continues to reinforce the negative message, over and over and over again.

“You are worthless” becomes “I am worthless”

“You are a lazy, good-for-nothing” becomes “I am a lazy good-for-nothing”

So sad, I could cry.

The only way out of this dilemma is to create new, positive neural pathways. Fortunately, there are lots of ways to do this. Here are a few:

  1. Write down every single compliment you receive, and accept it to be so.
  2. Become aware of your negative internal dialogue, and challenge the hell out of it.
  3. Speak or write positive affirmations every day. Seriously, they work.
  4. Commit to being your own best friend, and never abandon yourself.

Here’s one more… trust that you are enough.

In the spirit of practicing what I preach, I’m going publish this blog without having anyone else edit it first.

Deep breath…

I am enough.






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